Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.
1 Peter 5:8
Doug Fields tells an interesting anecdote about his dog. He claims that this dog is incredibly stupid. In fact, it may be the dumbest dog in the history of the world, he says. But even with how dumb his dog is Doug didn’t have to teach it how to have sex. He didn’t have to go get a little flip chart and draw pictures on it and go out into the backyard and teach his dog how to have sex. The dog figured it out on his own. This is because having sex isn’t difficult. You can have a brain the size of a finger nail, he says, and figure it out. And he is right. Having sex isn’t difficult, making wise decisions about sex is difficult.
This is even more true when you are dating. The Bible doesn’t talk a lot about dating specifically, but it teaches quite a bit about sex and other subjects that can be applied to dating. Take the above passage of Scripture for example. It presents a general truth about the nature of our enemy. It has nothing to do with sex specifically, and yet because it is true we know that it applies to sex as well. So the first thing you need to know if you are going to make wise sexual decisions is that you have an enemy. Over the past two weeks I have talked about how powerful sex is and that this power is what makes it awesome and fun; but this power is also what gives sex the potential to destroy people’s lives. Last week I gave a lot of statistics about the bad consequences sex before marriage can have on a person’s life. You need to know that the devil wants to trick you into experiencing that pain. He wants to convince that anything goes between two consenting adults, and that if you really love the person it's okay. He wants to see you struck down with an STD or to bring a child into this world out of wedlock. He wants to derail your life.
Scripture tells us that this world is under the control of Satan, so it shouldn’t surprise us at all that our world is so sex saturated. Now I want to say again that sex is not bad. Sex is awesome! God is not down on sex. It is His gift to us. But it has the potential to do damage precisely because it is so powerful. Satan has set our world up to try to tempt us into having sex in ways that maximize its potential for damage in our lives. God created sex to be had within marriage, so Satan uses movies, music, TV, magazines, pornography and much more to make sex between unmarried people (casual sex that is just for the fun of it) sound like the best kind of sex.
God sees things differently. He says…
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. (I Corinthians 6:18-20)
So now that you know that there is an enemy that is trying hard to get you to destroy your life with sex, you have some decisions to make. Who are you going to listen to? Are you going to follow the world? Are you going to fall into the trap that your enemy has set for you? Or are you going to believe that God’s way is better? Are you going to choose to trust that God can give you the strength to wait? I wish I could choose for you, but I can't. I hope you will choose God’s way. Next week we are going to talk about how you can make a game plan for making it to your wedding day with your virginity intact. It’s possible, and I believe everyone is capable of it with God’s help. For now, pray and ask God to give you the strength to use the gift of sex wisely.
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